By age two children have already learned to walk, in fact some run up and down stairs with surprising ease, opening up endless opportunities for them to explore their surroundings more independently. Their motor and cognitive skills have also evolved a lot and the little ones are appropriating an increasingly wide vocabulary that allows them to better relate to those around them.
At this age, fine motor skills also develop a lot, their movements become more precise and they are able to use the thumb and forefinger to grasp objects, a movement known as ‘smart gripper’ and which is the first step for them to later they can draw and learn to write. At the age of two their senses are also sharpened, in fact, the little ones are already able to capture what is happening around them at an angle of 180˚ and can relate the illustrations in the stories with the story they hear.
By the age of two they are capable of imitating adult behavior, gestures and language, although most of the time they do not understand their meaning. However, not all the changes that occur at this stage are positive, at the age of two children also tend to become more restless, which can confuse many parents.
More restlessness and impulsiveness
Two years of age are a critical stage in children’s development. The fact of having achieved greater independence leads them to want to do things for themselves, even if they do not know very well how to achieve it. Other times they can show great negativity, there will be days when they refuse to wash their hands, get dressed or look for toys, because they do not want to feel controlled by their parents, they think they are already ‘big children’. It is a period in which the little ones have just discovered their independence and are enjoying it. In addition, they are releasing their character, which is why the dreaded tantrums usually appear.
At this age, most children know what they want, but are not aware of their limits, which usually generates great frustration that they do not know how to deal with. Therefore, when they find themselves in a situation where they cannot get what they want, they get angry and, as they are not yet able to express their anger in words, they often do so through tantrums.
Keys to dealing with the two years of the child
In this period the fundamental key is patience. Keep in mind that this is only one phase and that it will pass soon. Your child will gain responsibility and measure. However, you can try some of these tips to help you get through this stage:
- Make sure to encourage his autonomy without putting too much pressure on him and, whenever you can, help him with whatever he needs.
- In the face of tantrums, speak with affection but maintain a firm attitude and set clear limits whenever necessary.
- Help him understand his own emotions and give him tools to deal with them. In this way you will learn to know yourself better and to control your impulsive reactions.
Don’t celebrate their antics, but don’t criticize them either. Remember that your child is in a phase of exploration and discovery and that harmful comments can damage his self-esteem.